Doing something nice for ME!

When I started staying home with my kids, I quit getting hair cuts.  I quit wearing make-up.  I started wearing t-shirts with holes and/or stains.  In other words, I let myself “go”.  I thought that, as a stay-at-home mom, my focus should be on my children and my home and not on myself.  

One day, I was walking into the post office in my usual state of attire (hair unwashed and pulled into a ponytail, ratty old t-shirt and shorts, and my Birkenstocks) when I bumped into my husband and a female co-worker coming out the door.  He had helped her carry some heavy packages from their office across the street.  They were laughing and talking about something as they were coming out the door and the sight of my husband laughing and smiling with another woman infuriated me!  Not that my husband was doing anything wrong or even that I thought he was doing anything wrong, but it made me so jealous.  

She was not much younger than me, only a year or two.  But she was slim.   Her hair was styled in a cute and trendy cut.  She was wearing makeup and pretty jewelry.  She had on a nice dress and heels.  And there I stood, feeling like a frumpy old housewife with a kid on each hand.  I wanted so badly to be her at that moment.  I was jealous and I hated her for looking so nice and smiling with my husband.  

I decided that I was tired of looking like a frumpy housewife so I decided to make some changes in myself. Money was tight so I couldn’t afford to go to the trendy salon on the corner for a new cut but my pastor’s wife had been cutting hair out of the parsonage for a while so I asked her to cut my hair.  She was delighted and confessed that she had been dying to get her scissors hands on my hair for quite some time.  It was all one length and halfway down my back which was not a good combination for my fine, thin hair.  She was so kind to only charge me $12 for a wash, cut, and style!  

Over the next few months, she cut more and more off of my hair until I, too, had a cute and trendy hairstyle.  I began to wear makeup and I began to wear nicer clothes whenever possible.  Remember, I said money was tight so I couldn’t afford to go out and buy a new wardrobe but I did shop the Belk clearance racks and found some great deals!  

The best thing I did was when I started walking each evening.  After we put the kids to bed, I would meet a friend (usually the pastor’s wife) and we would walk all around town for an hour.  This not only helped me to shed a few pounds but it gave me an opportunity to get out of the house and do something for myself.  I felt better, slept better, and had much more energy.  Best of all, it was free!  You don’t have to spend a ton of money to do something for yourself.

Since moving to the town we’re in now, I haven’t made close friends like I had in the last town.  I stopped walking in the evenings.  I stopped wearing makeup unless we were going out.  I started wearing ratty old clothes again.  My hair had gotten to all one length, halfway down my back and I was sporting a ponytail every single day. One day, a couple of months ago, I looked in the mirror and decided that I needed to pull myself out of the frump I was falling into again.  

I’ve started going to the salon (our move came with a substantial raise) and wearing makeup again.  I bought myself some nice clothes.  I started wearing perfume and earrings.  I even bought myself some sexy underwear!  You’d be surprised how much better you feel when you know you look good under your clothes.  Try it, seriously.  I feel so much better and my outlook on life is better, too!

So, how about you?  What do you do to feel good about yourself?  If not, I encourage you to start doing something, even if it’s something small, today!

Published in: on August 8, 2008 at 3:39 pm  Comments (1)  
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